Your personality shapes your behavior and influences those around you. Your environment plays an integral role in your social conditioning. Therefore, to grow your personality you first need to understand what affects you.
Notice the feedback loop
Become aware of the feedback loop and notice how it reflects back to you your dominant personality traits or areas you need to grow. For example, consider how people’s needs impact your relationships.
It is helpful to use your relationship as a mirror to reflect what you need to change in your behavior. Noticing the feedback loop, you can then learn to meet each other’s needs, build trust and grow your relationships.
Understand your core motivations
Why do you get up in the morning? Is it to earn more money, drive a flashier car, run a marathon, or obtain a PHD? Success means different things for different people.
Alternative motivations include: feeling good, being of service to your community, or sharing your expertise as a leader? Understand your core motivations in order to align your personality with your life goals.
Play to your strengths
Your strengths give you a competitive advantage. Your strengths establish your unique differentiation, giving you that edge. Hone your skills so that they become valuable to those that need them.
Latent talents need work. Spend time mastering your craft and soon your talents will turn into valuable skills. Notice what you’re good at and what you enjoy doing. Where these 2 aspects overlap lies your purpose. Work at developing your talents to the best of your abilities.
Give yourself time
Give yourself time to understand your personality and how you respond to different situations. How do circumstances impact you in positive or negative ways? Subsequently, reflect on what shapes your personality.
Similarly, consider your emotional wave. Ride your cycle of ups-and-downs before making key decisions. This will give you the clarity you need to connect with your vision and purpose, thereby making the correct decision for your personality.
Take on other perspectives
When growing your personality it is useful to also take on other perspectives. An introvert enjoys alone time while an extrovert prefers fast-paced environments with a lot people. Distinguish your dominant traits, such as: introvert/extrovert, positive/negative, thinking/feeling, judging/perceiving, intuitive/sensing.
Find your type here.
Play to your strengths but take on the opposite perspective of your dominant traits. Put yourself in other people’s shoes – empathically growing your relationships in accordance with each other’s needs.
How do you handle failure?
How you cope with failure influences your behavior to a greater or lesser extent. Are you okay with failure, and does it take you less time to try again? Or are you someone that’s sensitive to failure and needs familiarity to grow your personality? Alternatively you could also be a realist – more of a midfielder, to use football terminology, to control the outcome of events.
What is important is to become aware of how you handle failure to not only determine what your core personality is, but to grow your personality in alignment with your goals.
In this article I have outlined some core principles for mastering your personality. However, it takes time and work to truly understand how your personality influences your actions. So if you need help in mastering your personality, then book a mentoring session and we can work on establishing your needs.